How to Love…

A piece of information I would love to share with you today is to learn your primary love languages, if you aren’t already familiar with them, and also learn the love languages of people close to you. I’ve found the best website. If you’re interested in founding your love languages in a romantic relationship, choose “married” (even if you’re just dating—the same principles will apply) or choose “single” if you’d like to know your love languages in the context of friendships.

I’ve learn that we love other people the way we ourselves wish to be love, but if you want to truly care for someone, you need to find out what makes them feel most loved…and attempt your best to love them that way. For example my love language involves a whole lot of quality time. You could by me a wonderful gifts and shower me with loving words of affirmation, clean my apartment and car and I’ll appreciate those things and feel love and be ever so grateful, but quality time…that’s what makes me emotional and really touch me beyond what anything else can. I tend to show my love to others by being around them, making the time to go do something together whether it’s the park, dinner or a movie because it’s what makes most sense to me, but I need to remember that we are not all the same in this way. Next time you speak to a loved one whether a friend or someone you’re dating or married to, ask them how they like to be loved or shown love to. It will make all the difference. Just some food for thought.

Here is the link to the assessment!!!

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

Smokey Mesquite BBQ Sliders Heaven…and Juicing Preperations…in Pictures

Currently Watching For Colored Girls

My love is too beautiful to have it thrown back on my face.

Sessilee Lopez for Essence Magazine March 2013

Sessilee Lopez is featured in “Bold Brights – This spring get your sweet tooth fix with vibrant candy hues”. For Essence Magazine March 2013 photographed by Ronald James and hair styling by Ted Gibson.

If I Got What I Wanted at 21, I’d Be Miserable Today…

When I was 21, I knew I was grown. I knew what I wanted, lived on my own, took care of myself and embarked in an adult relationship,that I was far from ready for.

I was constantly heart-broken, all I thought about was him. I hurt but I refused to move on, it felt impossible to be without him. I felt like that for what seemed like forever.

 

At 21, I loved him so much, I prayed earnestly for him to feel the same, only to be rejected at every try.

 

I spent my nights spying (shame), crying and inventing stories and situations, that I had no way of proving but my spirit accepted them and suffered.

 

…and then he gave up on the little that he offered me. He left me and it stung. I felt physical pain from that heart break. I just knew, I would never get over it. I knew, I would never love the same or feel for a man the way I felt for him.

 

I didn’t want friends, I didn’t want to be nursed back to normal. I wanted to be left alone and I wanted to cry.

 

It took me up to 2013,to actually be able to say I’m over it and mean it. 

The irony of it all is now when I think back, I smile at how dramatic I was and how I basically broke my own heart. I lusted, wanted, loved and begged for someone who today I pitty.

 

Had we maintained a relationship, today, I would be miserable, unhappy, bored, neglected and more… the pain I felt back then would have been nothing compared to the pain of being with someone who doesnt truly love you.

 

I believe that God has a story for all of us. I’ve learned to let God tell it and to stop trying to write my own obscure interpretation of what it should be. God’s plan has been better than anything I could dream of. I won’t settle for good, I wont settle at all. I trust that what’s in store for me will knock me off my feet, pick me up and love me for eternity.

 

I apply the story God has for me, in all aspects of life. I give 100% in everything I do and when I come up short, instead of beating myself , I acknowledge that God has a plane.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Water is Love and Life…

I came across the video below and I had to share it…We are all familiar with the benefits of water, to our skin, hair and so on… but would you believe me if I  told you that you could experience positive internal and metaphysical benefits as well? Would you believe that we can positively impact our water, prior to drinking it.

I’m starting to sound crazy so I’ll let the video do the explaining.

Dr. Emoto took samples of water and exposed them to elements such as music, words, thoughts and intentions. Then he froze the droplets of water and examined them under a microscope. Surprisingly, words and thoughts impacted the water. Water exposed to positive words and intentions created clear crystallized shapes, while  water exposed to negative words and intentions were fragmented and chaotic.

Perhaps this means nothing but it opened my mind to the possibility that thoughts and emotions have a greater physical impact on our bodies and nature. If water is indeed that susceptible to our thoughts, we should be able to focus it, in a way that may positively impact out lives.

As human beings, we have s relatively high water content and we are constantly walking about with negative and limiting thoughts. Most of the time, we are being hard and negative to our own selves. Could we be harming ourselves and our potential?Could the words we think and speak to ourselves and eachother be a defining factors?What if words of gratitude and appreciation had healing/protective properties? such as with prayer.

I don’t think I’ll ever drink water the same again. I think I’ll also be much more aware of my thoughts and words from now on. Come to think of it,it only makes sense as water is a source of life, perhaps it should be used as more than hydration, perhaps we should look at water as love.

I encourage you to drink lots of water from today and on…and if you already are,think good thoughts as you drink. Even if you are sceptical nothing horrible can come from focusing on positivity.

Noteworthy Instagrams

It’s been an amazing week. This is one of those situations where life is getting REAL and things are simply too sensitive to blog about-The things that make life worth it, the imperfect things, the things that hurt, the things that can’t always be photographed or recorded. One thing I know for sure is that my reality is far from perfections, the truth is my life is a constant struggle. It’s not always candy and rainbows, and for anyone else going through some hard stuff, I just want you to know “it’s going to be alright”. We’re are all here together. When you make sure that you do the right thing, then good things are bound to happen.

One of my biggest pet peeves in social media is when people insist on telling you vague information. Yet here I am being  oh so vague, but I promise that everything is OK-I think that the ropes of life are so beautifully intertwined but at time they tangle up into a mess…similar to necklaces, in a jewelry box. I let them intertwine, until I need a particular one and then I have to seat there and carefully undo the mad knot.

I have faith that it will all be ok, it will all be beautiful and that life is good. Even when it’s clearly not.

Now here’s my last 7 weeks (or so) in Instagram.

A Love Story

The sweetest thing…

Miguel and Kendrick Lamar By Steven Geomillion and Dennis Leupold For VIBE’s 2013 ‘Big List’ Issue

Miguel and Kendrick Lamar By Steven Geomillion and Dennis Leupold for VIBE’s 2013 ‘Big List’ Issue.

Beyonce by Mario Testino for Vogue UK May 2013

Beyonce for Vogue UK May 2013. An excerpt, “I feel like Mrs Carter is who I am, but more bold and more fearless than I’ve ever been. It comes from knowing my purpose and really meeting myself once I saw my child. I was like, ‘OK, this is what you were born to do’. The purpose of my body became completely different.” On gender equality she says, “But I guess I am a modern-day feminist. I do believe in equality. Why do you have to choose what type of woman you are? Why do you have to label yourself anything? I’m just a woman and I love being a woman.[...] I do believe in equality and that we have a way to go and it’s something that’s pushed aside and something that we have been conditioned to accept.”